What do i do?plz help?

k iam stuck in a spot i have been married for almost 9 yars and my husband acts controlling toward me he says i have to stay hm when h aint here and i luv him but we have been throught thi before and he never changes should i live him or should i stay with him? we have to young kids together and it breaks my heart to seehow he treats me plz help me and tell me what i should do